DEALING WITH LOSS

8 February 2020

Life can present us with challenging situations that we never imagined that one day we will go through. Things happen in our lives that we can neither understand nor explain. When such tragedies come knocking at our doors, we are usually unprepared and unready to face or approach it. It is very weird and uncommon to live in daily anticipation of evil, hence, we are often caught unawares, and this in most cases, leaves us dazed, confused, disturbed, depressed, broken and embarrassed. At such perplexing times, it is easy to doubt the love of God, question His commitment, and disregard the genuineness of His promise.


While it is alright to grief and cry at these difficult moments, it is important to note that God, in His wisdom, allows things to happen to us not because He has stopped loving us. He does not take delight in the tears of His children but sometimes we just can’t understand that He is taking us through the flames to refine us as gold purified (Isaiah 48:10, Psalm 66:10, Zachariah 13:9). Like the Israelites experienced, the road to the Promised Land might not be blazoned with roses or adorned with colorful flowers and precious stones. It could also be through the dangerous wilderness and the raging sea. Yet, our Father knows the end from the beginning and even if we walk through the valley of shadows of death, He will lead us in perfect safety.


I remember lying on the hospital bed after giving birth to my first child when the doctors told me that my boy was no more. I have been a faithful Christian and could never imagine losing the first fruit of my womb. I carried him for 9 Months and loved him more and more every day as I felt a new life growing inside of me. I waited anxiously for the arrival of my beloved child only to be told on his due date that he had gone to be with the Lord. It was one of the darkest moments of my life. How can I forget how I frequent his grave with flowers, flooding his tombstone with hot tears from my bleeding heart? I never imagined I would be numbered among the regular graveyard visitors. It never crossed my mind that one day, I would hold a dead child not to talk of carrying being my own dear son. Like many people would naturally feel in that situation, I felt like God had let me down. I felt betrayed, disgraced and embarrassed. To worsen it all, people kept saying behind me that God had decided to punish me for my sins. Some questioned my Christianity and many accused me of being a bitter woman. To them, my bitterness had landed me in trouble.


However, as I turned to the Word of God and stumbled on the story of Job, I found peace and answers and my heart was encouraged. Job, being good and righteous, was the last person we would expect such tragedies to befall. He lost everything he loved and labored for all his life not because he was unfaithful. It became clear that even though it might be unknown to the world, God allowed me to lose my child for the sake of His Glory. Of course the devil meant to destroy my testimony but God has His way of getting beauty from the ashes.


How plausible is it to the human mind that God allowed a devoted man like Job to lose everything in a day? Apostle Paul, one of the most committed and anointed Apostles the Church has ever known, was a constant victim of many troubles. He preached in chains and witnessed behind the iron bars of tyrant lords. These were people dear to the heart of God, yet He permitted unpleasant experiences in their lives that He might be glorified.


God is never unfair and unfaithful as we often think when things go wrong. He is right there in the storm leading you into His will. He says in Isaiah 43:2-3: “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you. For I am the LORD your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior.”


Our Lord has not promised a battle-free life, but He has assured us of victory in all. When the storms of life rock your boat, the Lord will be your anchor. No matter how dark the days are, He will always be your guiding light. He is determined to be glorified through in all circumstances. He says in Isaiah 48:10-11; “See, I have refined you, but not as silver; I have tested you in the furnace of affliction. For My own sake, My very own sake, I will act; I for how can I let Myself be defamed? I will not yield My glory to another.” You are the apple of God’s eyes and He will never allow tragedies to claim the victory over you. You might be tempted to doubt His love, but never stop trusting in His wisdom. No matter what happens, He is never unstable in His commitment towards His own. He has never for once been found unfaithful to those who love and trust Him. Be positive when things are negative, be hopeful when the heart is full of doubts, follow Him when the road is dark and tough, for He who is God during the day is still God at night! He alone can command the storm and stop the raging sea. Never forget that:


God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth gives way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with their surging… The Lord Almighty is with us; the God of Jacob is our fortress.


Psalm 46

Beloved, be confident in His love from this day; know that come what may, He will never leave you nor forsake you. Amen.



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